Why Life IS Fair

Saying "life isn't fair" is sort of like a nicer way to say "man up, you big baby". Which is probably why everyone hates hearing it; no one likes to be told that they're being a sissy. But as I got older, I thought a lot about why people say that. I have come to a few conclusions.

My first conclusion is that when someone tells you that "life isn't fair", they have recently learned this lesson for themselves. My second conclusion is that people want to communicate that life just gets harder as you get older and as you go along. My third conclusion for why people tell you that "life isn't fair" is that they simply don't want to hear it and they want you to stop talking. For whatever reason.

However, I disagree with the saying that "life isn't fair". I say it's false. I say that life IS fair. I have often pondered this long and hard.

My reasoning behind this is that everyone is different. Nobody is the same, so why should they think that they deserve the same things? Each person is a unique individual, designed by a loving Father in Heaven to be who they are. Each person is also given their talents, gifts, blessings, and trials by this same Heavenly Father to make them a better person.

The phrase "life isn't fair" can be applied in two different ways. The first way is when someone has something that you want, but you don't have. But life is fair. What about everything that you do have? Food, family, a home... does anything else matter all that much? God has given you everything that you need, so life is indeed fair.

The second way is when "bad things happen to good people". People argue that God is unfair and unjust because of this reason. I argue that life is fair in this case as well. God gives us our trials to make us better people, so how can a good person become a great person without trials? It's the same principle behind how great pressure turns coal into diamonds. Coal isn't bad. Coal didn't do anything to deserve all the pressure put on it. Coal was perfectly useful and fine the way it was. But God sees the potential in the coal to be something that is so much greater.

I often find that simply by being grateful for what I have and by being patient, I can see life in a much more positive light. It's surprising how much simply changing your thinking can change your life.